Bonus Episode #034
What do a nun in Calcutta and a grandmother in Harlem have in common?
More than you might think.
“We ourselves feel that what we are doing is just a drop in the ocean. But the ocean would be less because of that missing drop.
Mother Teresa
Clara McBride Hale—better known as Mother Hale—lived the exact same truth. Her tiny Harlem apartment became a haven for over 1,000 babies born withdrawing from heroin, cocaine, and later HIV/AIDS. She didn’t have a global network or major funding. She simply loved people where they were and believed—deeply—in human potential.
This is her story… and what it means for those of us trying to make our own small drops in the world.
Who Was Clara Hale?
Born in 1905 and widowed at just 27, Clara Hale raised her three children during the Great Depression by working as a domestic and then opening a childcare service in her home. Eventually, that service evolved into foster care. Over the decades, she lovingly raised 40 foster children, all of whom grew into stable, successful adults.
She thought she might retire in 1969.
But life had other plans.
Her daughter Lorraine brought home a young mother battling heroin addiction and a newborn already in withdrawal—and Mother Hale simply couldn’t turn them away.
That moment became the seed of Hale House, the first home in the nation dedicated to caring for drug-addicted infants.
The Secret Ingredient: Love
Babies at Hale House cried for hours, trembled with withdrawal, and struggled to sleep. Many faced fevers, vomiting, and weeks of physical discomfort. And yet, Mother Hale taught her volunteers one simple truth:
“It takes patient love, persistent love, unconditional love… It was everything we had to offer them.”
Mother Hale
Love wasn’t sentimental. It was work. It was midnight feedings and two-month detoxes and showing up day after day for children who couldn’t ask for help.
It was the “secret ingredient” that transformed their beginnings.
Empowering Mothers to Heal
A remarkable part of Hale House’s mission was the requirement that mothers complete drug rehabilitation before reclaiming their babies. This meant Hale House wasn’t just nurturing infants—it was giving mothers a path back to their own lives.
One mother, Mrs. King, described her addiction as an express ride downward:
“You know, Dr. Hale, it sure is easier to go to hell than it is to get out of it.”
Dr. Lorraine Hale and Mrs. King“From what I see of drugs, they’re the Fast Express down.”
“And getting out is the Slow Mo train up. But you know what? I’m going to make it, Doc. Slow Mo or not. I’m gonna make it, and so are my kids!”
Her courage—even as she faced HIV/AIDS—embodies the grit and hope that defined Hale House.
What We Can Learn About Change, Addiction, and Hope
Addiction isn’t about moral failure. It’s often rooted in trauma, pain, and emotional overwhelm. This is something we discussed deeply in Episode #034 of the Sendy Mom Podcast with Candace Bergquist.
People need support. They need compassion. And they need tools—not shame—to reclaim their power.
Healing happens slowly, on the “Slow Mo train,” but it does happen.
Every day, people rise from addiction, rebuild their lives, and reconnect with their families. That’s why stories like Hazel Mason’s (Episode #018) are so important—real proof that recovery is possible.
We All Have Problems — But We All Have Power
Mother Hale said:
“Everybody has problems. I have problems. But I put them all in God’s hands and go on and help the children.”
Mother Hale
Faith, in this sense, is not passive.
It’s action.
It’s courage.
It’s taking the next step even when the entire staircase is foggy.
We’ve all had moments—especially as parents—when we don’t know what to do next. For me, this happened during one of our family moves, when my son felt lost and disconnected at a new school in Australia. The prompting I received to pull him out immediately, even without a clear plan, was a reminder that acting on faith often opens doors we can’t yet see.
That decision eventually led him to an International Baccalaureate program where he thrived, grew, and found belonging. Sometimes the bravest thing we can do is simply to move.
When Charity Fails Us: The Painful Legacy of Hale House
After Mother Hale’s death in 1992, Hale House tragically fell into scandal. Mismanagement and fraud under her daughter Lorraine damaged the organization’s reputation and wasted millions of dollars meant for children.
It’s heartbreaking.
It’s infuriating.
And it can make generous people hesitant to give.
But this story shouldn’t scare us away from charitable giving. It should teach us how to give wisely.
How to Choose a Charity You Can Trust
Resources to check Charity Legitimacy
IRS Tax Exempt Organization Search
Charities I Know and Trust
These organizations demonstrate transparency and meaningful impact:
Bellwether International
From Episode #024 with Rachel Miner
Works to prevent genocide through grassroots and government-level intervention, with a strong focus on empowering women.
Rise and Rebuild
From Episode #030 with Trixie Espinosa
Feeds 7,000 children daily in the Philippines, teaches agricultural self-reliance, and responds quickly to natural disasters.
Eyes4Zimbabwe
Provides cataract surgeries, hygiene kits, birthing kits, food, and education supplies. Regular updates and photo reports.
Lifting Hands International
Supports refugees both abroad and during resettlement in the US.
Dahlia’s Hope & PACT
Serve survivors of sex trafficking with therapy, life skills training, and reintegration support.
Why Your Drop in the Ocean Matters
Clara Hale didn’t save the whole world.
She saved her corner of it:
- The babies who landed in her arms
- The mothers who fought their way back
- The volunteers whose hearts changed in her living room
This is what Sendy living looks like.
You don’t need to be a saint or start a movement.
You don’t need to fix the world.
You just need to take the next right step.
When you give on Giving Tuesday—whether it’s $5, a used coat, or an hour of your time—you’re adding your drop to the ocean.
And the ocean really is different because of it.
Clara Hale: “She’s the Last Living Heart Donor” – American Story with Bob Dotson
Hidden Figures: Clara Hale by Sensei Aishitemasu
Stephanie Mills When I Think Of Home with Clara McBride Hale interview
The House that Love Built by Dr. Lorraine Hale
The House that Love Built by Dr. Lorraine Hale
Raising Children with Complex Needs: Teaching Love, Empathy, and Charity with Candace Bergquist – Episode #034
Hazel’s Story of Faith, Courage, Hope and Addiction Recovery with Hazel Mason – Episode #018
How You Can Help End Poverty: From Crickets to Crops and Feeding the 7,000 with Trixie Espinosa – Episode #030
Surviving Sex Trafficking and Advocating for Change with Faith Robles – Episode #009
Women Doing Something! Teaching Love with Rachel Miner of Bellwether International – Episode #024
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